“That offends me…” thoughts on perceived ‘judgmental’ statements

For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope. Romans

Comments, thoughts and reflections welcome

Ephesians 4 and Luke 12

 

A very recent experience has highlighted just how much impact the current manner of thinking has had on everyone, believer and unbeliever alike. Any comment or critique is immediately seen as judgmental and that is as a negative view. It has been said that truth in its first form is negative…

Luke 12: He also said to the crowds, “When you see a cloud rising in the west, you say at once, ‘A shower is coming.’ And so it happens. And when you see the south wind blowing, you say, ‘There will be scorching heat,’ and it happens. You hypocrites! You know how to interpret the appearance of earth and sky, but why do you not know how to interpret the present time? “And why do you not judge for yourselves what is right?

The present society has for so long bought into the raising of self-esteem (the definition of the word is enough to raise caution flags) that any criticism, any correction is seen as judgmental. It is. Scripture is full of instruction to judge. Judging is done every day by everyone. Judgment comes into play when deciding where to buy gas, which fruit to choose, what will be eaten from the menu, what will be worn. Quality is judged in areas of retail, food, housing, friendships…the list goes on.  And why do you not judge for yourselves what is right? -Jesus

 

There has been a constant drip, drip, drip, of negativity attached to judgment. If anything is said to an individual that opposes what they hold to, judgment is raised, as in they are being disrespected or hated. All have opinions and some decisions are made based upon those opinions. All have likes and dislikes and all are not in agreement. That does not indicate the suggested companions of judging; hate, dislike, superiority, etc. are implied. If one says they prefer chocolate, those who prefer vanilla or strawberry are not being disrespected or hated. The mentality of every opposing thought being seen as judgmental in the form of passing judgment or sentence upon someone, or of being a statement of hatred or disrespect has gone over the top. It is time to be confident enough in the identity held by an individual that these accusations are not immediately forthcoming from them when faced with conflict or dissenting opinions. It is time to reach for maturity and stability in who one is as Paul states:

We will no longer be infants tossed about by the waves and blown along by every wind of teaching, at the mercy of people clever in devising ways to deceive. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in every respect grow up into him who is the head, the Messiah. …

 

Where there is offense, those receiving the offense, more properly stated accepting offense, should consider what is making the thing offensive. When the individual is strong in their identity with God, in who they are; they can receive instruction, hear opposing points of view and not take offense. They are grown up into maturity in Christ who is the head…His opinion is what should be of concern. If offense is taken, the question why needs to be answered. At times offense is taken when it is the Holy Spirit who is at work correcting something within the individual. Voiced offense in the form of stating that an opinion or stated truth is judgmental is actually judgmental itself and seeks to silence the spoken or written word.

 

sshh that offends me...it's judgmental...

sshh that offends me…it’s judgmental…

 

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Undisciplined children

Parents,

Proverbs 13:18 – [Pro 13:18 KJV] 18 Poverty and shame [shall be to] him that refuseth instruction: but he that regardeth reproof shall be honoured.

Children who choose to disregard instruction face shame (correction consequences) and poverty (lack of knowledge and lack of learning) both of which shows in the final assessments (grades). Children who choose to listen and exercise self-control need only to be told once and learn. They too face consequences; honor, for as they are able to listen they learn, they have knowledge and they apply it. In the final assessments (grades) it shows. They are honored in many ways one of which is the honor roll. They are also developing into individuals who will succeed at what they do. It is a choice. When we block the natural consequences, we harm them. We teach them self-control is not important, it will be overlooked time and again and they become adults who if they make any gains make them at the expense of others, for that is what they have learned. Forbearing one another, treating one another with kindness, preferring one another is foreign to them. They have been catered to and believe that is how it should be. What and how are we teaching our children? My experience in the classroom says we are not following scripture. My experience in the classroom says we are spoiling the child. Our natural love gets in the way of what is best for the child. It is hard to discipline a wayward child. They are cute, they are ours, they are masters at manipulation, they persevere till they get what they want,

[Pro 22:15 KJV] 15 Foolishness [is] bound in the heart of a child; [but] the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

That rod can come in many forms. It does not always have to be corporal punishment. It is a rod of correction, it is reproof, it teaches consequences, it follows God’s Word. Time to take a close look at what we are doing to prepare our children for their future.

Be genuine…

For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope. Romans

Comments, thoughts and reflections welcome.

Psalm 119  Aleph  vs. 1-9

 Blessed are those whose way is blameless,

         who walk in the law of the LORD!

  Blessed are those who keep his testimonies,

       who seek him with their whole heart,

       who also do no wrong, but walk in his ways!

You have commanded your precepts

       to be kept diligently.

 Oh that my ways may be steadfast

      in keeping your statutes!

Then I shall not be put to shame,

      having my eyes fixed on all your commandments.

I will praise you with an upright heart,

     when I learn your righteous rules.

I will keep your statutes;

     do not utterly forsake me!

Let us begin to pray Psalm 119 each day;  specifically for our nation.  Sing it to the Lord God Almighty.  The genuine believer loves the Word of God.  The genuine believer studies the Word of God.  The genuine believer knows the Word of God.  The genuine believer lives the Word of God.  It is hidden in our hearts; it is written on our  foreheads, in our minds; it is written on our hands, used and acted upon daily.  Those who cross our paths daily, see it  on our faces, hear it in our words, see it in our actions, sense the Lord God’s presence when in our presence.  We are immersed in scripture, living it out.  That is how our fellowships grow, as  a spiritually hungry nation begins to see the real in God’s people.

 

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