“That offends me…” thoughts on perceived ‘judgmental’ statements

For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope. Romans

Comments, thoughts and reflections welcome

Ephesians 4 and Luke 12


A very recent experience has highlighted just how much impact the current manner of thinking has had on everyone, believer and unbeliever alike. Any comment or critique is immediately seen as judgmental and that is as a negative view. It has been said that truth in its first form is negative…

Luke 12: He also said to the crowds, “When you see a cloud rising in the west, you say at once, ‘A shower is coming.’ And so it happens. And when you see the south wind blowing, you say, ‘There will be scorching heat,’ and it happens. You hypocrites! You know how to interpret the appearance of earth and sky, but why do you not know how to interpret the present time? “And why do you not judge for yourselves what is right?

The present society has for so long bought into the raising of self-esteem (the definition of the word is enough to raise caution flags) that any criticism, any correction is seen as judgmental. It is. Scripture is full of instruction to judge. Judging is done every day by everyone. Judgment comes into play when deciding where to buy gas, which fruit to choose, what will be eaten from the menu, what will be worn. Quality is judged in areas of retail, food, housing, friendships…the list goes on.  And why do you not judge for yourselves what is right? -Jesus


There has been a constant drip, drip, drip, of negativity attached to judgment. If anything is said to an individual that opposes what they hold to, judgment is raised, as in they are being disrespected or hated. All have opinions and some decisions are made based upon those opinions. All have likes and dislikes and all are not in agreement. That does not indicate the suggested companions of judging; hate, dislike, superiority, etc. are implied. If one says they prefer chocolate, those who prefer vanilla or strawberry are not being disrespected or hated. The mentality of every opposing thought being seen as judgmental in the form of passing judgment or sentence upon someone, or of being a statement of hatred or disrespect has gone over the top. It is time to be confident enough in the identity held by an individual that these accusations are not immediately forthcoming from them when faced with conflict or dissenting opinions. It is time to reach for maturity and stability in who one is as Paul states:

We will no longer be infants tossed about by the waves and blown along by every wind of teaching, at the mercy of people clever in devising ways to deceive. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in every respect grow up into him who is the head, the Messiah. …


Where there is offense, those receiving the offense, more properly stated accepting offense, should consider what is making the thing offensive. When the individual is strong in their identity with God, in who they are; they can receive instruction, hear opposing points of view and not take offense. They are grown up into maturity in Christ who is the head…His opinion is what should be of concern. If offense is taken, the question why needs to be answered. At times offense is taken when it is the Holy Spirit who is at work correcting something within the individual. Voiced offense in the form of stating that an opinion or stated truth is judgmental is actually judgmental itself and seeks to silence the spoken or written word.


sshh that offends me...it's judgmental...

sshh that offends me…it’s judgmental…


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